The Ugly American

Recently, I read an interview with an American entrepreneur who stated that the US is now “destroyed” and that he has moved to a South American country with the intention of creating several businesses.

He goes on at length at his irritation that the only problem with Uruguay is the Uruguayans, who are, almost uniformly, “fools” who seem to be incapable of getting out of his way so that he can get on with his business ambitions.

The plight of this entrepreneur brings out great sympathy in me… for the Uruguayans.

In the 1960’s, Marlon Brando famously starred in a movie called, “The Ugly American” in which he portrayed an aggressive US businessmen abroad. Although those of us outside the US understand that the majority of Americans are not like the Brando character, we still encounter this American stereotype periodically. Typically, a successful American comes to a foreign country and sees “potential”, as there is no one else in the country who is as aggressive as he is. He then tries to set up a business and hires locals to do the donkey work. Early on, he dismisses the locals as “fools” who can’t get out of their own way to get things done. If he can do so legally, he replaces them with Americans whom he brings in.

However, he cannot escape the fact that he deals with local bureaucracy and other local businesspeople daily. He becomes increasingly frustrated over time and even begins to think that it is getting steadily worse, not better (he is right about this, but that will be explained later.) Finally, in anger and frustration, he leaves, swearing never to return to this country of incompetent fools.

Some of us call these individuals “two-year wonders”, as 1) they seem to be under the mistaken impression that they somehow possess the ability to mold the country’s existing mindset to suit their personal ambitions and, 2) typically, it takes about two years before they leave, usually having wasted a fair bit of investment capital.

Here in the Caribbean, throughout my business life, I have seen streams of expats come to my country to live and, hopefully, to prosper. They are welcome, but with a modicum of caution. Over the years I have found that some nationalities seem to adapt quite well to the Caribbean approach to life. Australians, New Zealanders, South Africans, Irish and those from Western Canada do especially well here – and all for the same reasons. First, they are easy-going and enjoy getting along with others without wishing to impose their own backgrounds on anyone. Second, they understand that, in order to succeed, they must adapt to local mores and customs. Third, they do not have a chip on their shoulders that either they or their home countries are somehow “better” than the adopted country. This last one is by far the most important qualification for success in the Caribbean (and in many other countries in the Third World.)

There are, of course, nationalities that typically are not a good fit here. Also, worldwide, people from cities sometimes tend to be more aggressive and are therefore less likely to fit. Perhaps “I’m from New York” is the phrase that would most engender some level of suspicion in West Indians.

Years ago, an architect from New York applied to me for a job, stating that she simply couldn’t bear New York anymore. She had vacationed in my country several times and concluded that it was the only place where she was happy; that she could no longer cope with people snapping their fingers and expecting her to get things done faster than was humanly possible. She practically begged me for the job. I spent a long time talking with her and advised her to imagine actually living in the Caribbean. Yes, she loved the fact that, when she was here, everyone was courteous and no one pressured her unreasonably. However, if she lived and worked here, she would find that, for example, each day when she went to lunch, she could not get a sandwich at the amazing speed at which one can be produced in a New York deli. In time, it may begin to irritate her that others from whom she required service were not delivering with the speed she had become accustomed to. She assured me that this was not the case.

She was hired and, at first, she was as happy as a clam. Then she began to grumble that the “fools” that she had to deal with in government departments were so stupid that they couldn’t understand that, when she needed something, she needed it now. She also complained increasingly about plumbers, hair stylists and a host of others whose efficiency was not up to her standard when performing tasks for her. She was often heard to say, “I’m paying for service and I expect to get it!”

She lasted eleven months.

Now, for the useful information. If you are an American and are hoping to expatriate yourself to the Caribbean, Uruguay or, for that matter, any other destination with which you are not fully versed, it would be very helpful to learn how the locals see you. By understanding this, you will be more likely to succeed.

First off, we in the Second and Third World do not assume that all Americans are “Ugly Americans” by a long shot. We do, however, recognize that some are. What we typically do when we meet any expat is to leave it up to him to demonstrate who he is as an individual. Americans are, almost invariably, a bit over-friendly initially and this is not a problem. Then one of two things generally happens. In a few months, he has either softened as he has become more relaxed with the locals, or he has become more demanding and aggressive. With the former group, locals tend to let them into their lives and their hearts, a bit at a time until, eventually, many of them become “family.” Conversely, if they have become more aggressive, locals begin to “freeze them out.” We don’t set out to destroy them any way, we simply make no personal effort to make things easier for them. This is also the case in Uruguay, and in many other countries.

For us, everything is personal. The phrase, “It’s just business, it’s not personal” simply does not apply. Business is personal. We take our time and try not to raise each other’s blood pressure. We consider it uncivilized and backward when those who are overly ambitious expect to bully people or push them out of the way in order to achieve their goals. Conversely, if an expat becomes “one of us”, it is again personal. We want him to succeed, so we begin to go out of our way to make things easier for him, often doing things that are not in our job description and for which we do not get paid. We are not seeking a bribe or looking for “a piece of the action,” we are simply doing what, for us, is culturally normal. To us it is a better way to live. It is civilized. This is a point that is sometimes missed by Americans, but those who get it, thrive.

Typically, we, of course, regard our philosophy as being “better” than the American philosophy because, as we see it, it allows for a better quality of life. However, Americans can justifiably say that their system is better, as it results in greater efficiency. The purpose of this article is not to judge one system against the other, but rather to provide insight for those who may wish to leave their present home and create a new one. This publication seeks to assist in the success of those who are newly expatriated and guide them away from any actions that may result in them falling into the dustbin of “two-year wonders.”

Returning to the man from the beginning of this article who was interviewed in Uruguay, I should advise readers that I live part of each year in Uruguay and, like him, conduct business there. Uruguay, like most of the Third World, is unquestionably “inefficient” by American standards. Uruguayans are nowhere near as ambitious as Americans and they plan to keep it that way. Uruguayans go way out of their way to help others (expats included), but at their own pace. However, once they sense that they are being looked down upon as incompetent fools, the inefficiency increases. The greater the arrogance of the expat businessman, the less support he receives. It is a system constructed primarily of personal willingness to assist. Therefore, an expat who ignores (or, more accurately, fails to understand) this fact eventually fails in his business and leaves. He is “culled from the herd” and an opening is created for another expat who will hopefully be more suitable and will receive appropriate support.

When American businesspeople travel abroad with the intent of doing business, they (whether they personally deserve it or not) carry a national reputation with them. In many countries outside of the US, when locals learn you are an American, an eyebrow goes up slightly and they wait for you to demonstrate whether or not you have the personal traits that will allow you to fit in. They will give you every opportunity to do so and they will be unlikely to lecture you if you do not.

The upside is that any American can do well abroad, merely by bringing with him a little humility and patience. Over time, he will be rewarded in spades. He should not, however, ever be so presumptuous as to assume that he will change the entire country to become “more American.” Most Third-Worlders have no desire to become more like America with regard to attitude. As an illustration, I once overheard this conversation in a local restaurant:

American diner: “Where the hell is the waitress?!!  I have a meeting to get to. I don’t have time for this crap!”

Restaurant employee: “I’m sorry, sir, she’s at another table. She’ll be with you soon.”

American diner: “This bulls**t would never happen in the States.”

Diner at the next table: “Sir, if you are more at home with the way things are done in the States, there are flights out tomorrow. We didn’t invite you - you’re free to go as soon as you wish.”

American diner: “Yeah? Forget it. It’s over in the States.”

Diner at the next table: “Yes, that seems to be true, so you’ll forgive us if we’re not eager to emulate the way it’s done in America.”

This conversation is useful, as it typifies the Third World attitude about culture. We do not see ourselves as backward people who are hoping to become more American. Quite the opposite, we value our culture and are decidedly protective of it.

Some American readers may interpret this article as a diatribe against Americans. It is not. While it doesn’t pull any punches, its purpose is to help to prepare American expats (and indeed all expats) to be sensitive to the values, habits and even quirks of the people of the country being considered for residence. Accept from the outset that we unquestionably will not be changing these traits to be more in line with the traits of another country. Then assess your own priorities. If you are by nature impatient or aggressive, you will find greater success in, say, the Philippines or Hong Kong, where locals readily accept subjugation and function well in it.

Whatever your choice of country, before you take up residency and invest, be relatively certain that the cultural landscape suits your temperament. This one factor will be a deciding factor in your ability to succeed.

[While we certainly know to avoid pushing a Western way of thinking onto alternative cultures, there is still much preparation to do before making the move overseas. The International Man network offers a variety of tools to help make the process easier including in-depth briefings on a variety of topics relevant to those considering internationalization. Learn all the details about your free membership here.]

Tags: American stereotype , Australia , Canada , Caribbean , interview , Jeff Thomas , Marlon Brando , New York , New Zealand , South Africa , South America , The Ugly American , Uruguay

  • Lorrie

    Posted at 2011-08-16 03:29:29

    Excellent article -- profound insights. Not just for ex-pats but for any human. No one wants someone else to demand they change, no one wants to be looked down on. Ever try to get someone (your spouse) to clean out the garage.........I guarantee that the speed of the garage clean-out will be in inverse proportion to the number of times "garage" and "clean" are mentioned.............

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  • Gerald

    Posted at 2011-08-16 03:35:43

    Loved this article. Thanks! ......

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  • james palmer

    Posted at 2011-08-16 03:53:43

    WELL ALRIGHT!
    A GREAT CIVICS LESSON AND GOOD ADVICE FOR ALL US EXPATS TO BE. AND "THE TO BE" MIGHT OUGHT TO "BE" SOONER THAN LATER.

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  • G-Man

    Posted at 2011-08-16 04:18:48

    I have to say, this is a very good article!

    I understand the Caribbean and Uruguayans attitudes. Well, Caribbean anyway. I have never been to Uruguay. I was in the Caribbean some years ago and I went into a (I think) a Pizza Hut along with a few other people. We were there on a Caribbean Cruz. We ordered a few pizzas and had a few hours to waist before heading back to the ship. Over an hour later we asked, where are our pizzas? They said, "we will get around to them, when we get around to them". It was then I noticed the guys in the back dancing and listening to music instead of making our pizzas. We left mad as hell! We got a good taste in how things are done!

    We complained like crazy when we got back on board the ship and found that, not by a long shot, were we the only ones who complained about how the people are. Many people on the Cruz Ship couldn't handle it and headed back right away to the ship to get the service they were used to in the ships restaurants.

    I live in a border state here along the U.S, Mexico border. As anyone who lives here will tell you, everything is done with the "mañana attitude". Mañana in spanish means, tomorrow. You hire someone to do a job, they say they will show up tomorrow at 8:00am and they actually don't show up until noon or later. That is, if they show up at all.

    This attitude does spill over into small businesses and restaurants. However, most small business and restaurants do give the service that Americans are used to so, moving to some place that resembles what I'm used to times 10 will be a bit tough to get used to at first, but after a while, you will adapt because the slow pace forces you to relax and that's a good thing. But, it also keeps you busy in the sense that there will be things that you do not like how the locals do it (like maintenance work or gardening) and you will find yourself doing them instead.

    Culture can shock, so its always good to vacation someplace for a long while before making the big leap and move there.

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  • Ron Smith

    Posted at 2011-08-16 06:12:26

    A great article. I live in St Augustine Beach, FL. This is one of the slowest paced towns in Florida. I love it. You can drive a couple of hours and be in Orlando, or down the road a little further to Tampa, or just forty minutes and be in Jacksonville. I cannot wait to come back to my little "slow" town on the ocean. Americans on the whole (my opinion) are always in such a hurry....life is very short, I have learned, so my life partner (of 20 years) & I live in the slow lane, and let most pass us Some need the excitment & hussle of the big cities, and many good folks in America do not. As a society, America is very spoiled. I can see why so many in the world mock us. We, as a nation, try and push our culture on the world.....why does the entire world need to be like us? Anxiously awaiting for 3 month trip to South America.

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  • Joe MI

    Posted at 2011-08-16 11:10:31

    Great article and good reminder. We saw much of the same thing many years ago when we got to spend some time with "real" Hawaiians. Basically, there were two times... daytime and nighttime. Enjoy them both.

    I have a question too, if it could be addressed. For some of us, the idea of "visiting multiple times" just isn't feasible. We see the writing on the wall and desire to jump on the Santa Maria on a pilgrimage of our own to southern shores. We're contemplating this very thing right now. Should someone who can't afford to take multiple trips just forego any thought of expatriating?

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  • steve

    Posted at 2011-08-16 12:20:26

    LoL you could not make this stuff up!. First i agree about the idiot who wrote an article here about Uruguay. In fact i made a similar comment on here at the time. You then go on to do similar when you stereotype Aussies, Kiwis and Irish as being all laid back. No they are not. Some are i agree and some are most definitely not.
    Why don't you just change the name of this newsletter to Stereotypes monthly .

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  • Jose L. Podero

    Posted at 2011-08-16 14:25:36

    Having been an expat living in Panama, Uruguay and Argentina for some years I find the advice Jeff Thomas gives in The Ugly American article to be very accurate and useful in the prevailing context only. His philosophy seems to fail the reader by suggesting that we all should be content to adjust ourselves to the prevailing conditions that we find in a new homeland, and do so with a smiley face and not the faintest whimper of frustration. I suggest that such accommodating behavior will perhaps result in a pearl only if you happen to be an oyster....

    It is to the glory of the grumbling malcontent who has not been satisfied to endlessly suffer some irritation but rather has sized it up, formulated a solution, and then shoulders the burden of putting the solution into effect. This worked so dramatically well in that wonderful political experiment we call America, say 1815 to 1915. Then the "government" drew the country into yet another world war and things have been going down hill toward Hell ever since. It is this ugly impediment called the "government" that is the bane of one's existence anywhere, especially in the new homeland that is almost crippled by the sluggish latino philosophy. Here, government --that current gang of thugs who have the levers of political power in hand for benefit to themselves and cronies-- dedicates itself by bureaucratic inefficiency, and utter indifference to thwarting beneficial change.

    So let me borrow the words so appropriate here..."do not go gentle into that good night" but focus on the only solution that can offer lasting solution to the irritations that confront us in a new culture. We need to throw off this outrageous burden--The State, mistakenly called government. Then there will be no legitimate political impediment to progress. The world becomes one free market throughout. To an extraordinary extent never fully seen before, one achieves the success of his own making.

    At last we would be a free people. And all the fools would simply fade into the dust of twilight.

    Jose L. Podero

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  • StevenI

    Posted at 2011-09-15 02:30:01

    Wonderful article as I begin to consider Costa Rica. I know people there and have been to Mexico, Uruguay, Brazil, and Argentina as a tourist. I'm under now illusions that those countries should be like the US. In fact, in some ways I feel that I should have been born in South America instead of the US.
    This story helps me to see what blind spots about my current culture I could still bring with me. Thanks for shedding some light on things.

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  • The Resilient Family

    Posted at 2011-09-16 04:03:08

    Great piece... The most important lesson we learned when we moved abroad was to slow down. Now, its second nature. The pace is just slower and we don't expect things to get done quickly.

    What's interesting is that once you give in, so to speak, you'll notice that you become much more relaxed. I'm not nearly as stressed out and worried as I was when I lived in the U.S.

    The quality of life is so much better for our family here primarily because we've embraced the "tranquilo" and "manana" culture.

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